Vacations

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” Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. “

-Soren Kierkegaard

Are you ready for a once in a lifetime get-away! Are you feeling the dread of the work week! Do you ever feel like your life is a dull mindless routine! Well, think again! With our exclusive vacations, all your problems will go away! No more depressive thoughts! Call now to receive this once in a lifetime deal plus a gift card of your choice to spend in anything you want! This is basically what every get-away commercial is based-off emotion appealing benefits. Therefore, our mind is tricked into creating a beautiful reality where we envision ourselves enjoying in beautiful sandy beaches without a worry in the world and sipping on frosty piña coladas while watching our picture-perfect family. Don’t get me wrong this is an excellent thought to have, especially since modern-day marketing models many of its advertisements from these elements. Additionally, vacations are romanticized throughout social media, many of us posting these nicely edited photos to make our holidays seem nicer than what they are. Unfortunately, this sets our expectations higher, allowing more space for disappointment and shortcomings; this can significantly affect our vacation experience, which defies the whole purpose of a vacation.

So, what is a vacation? Why do we have them? Often, we insinuate vacations with pricey hotel bookings or that we must set aside so much money to enjoy ourselves thoroughly. Unfortunately, having this mindset doesn’t allow us to enjoy our vacation. By planning more, we experience less essentially, and I know to this might sound ridiculous, but in many cases, it’s quite factual. As humans, we always like things to go our way; we feel distraught when things don’t go as planned. Now you can imagine how a family feels when their flight is canceled or when an incident prevents them from enjoying the rest of their vacation. Although, vacations are for enjoying ourselves and releasing accumulated stress which is why we look for different ways to do that; therefore, the hospitality industry takes advantage of this problem and creates all sorts of attractions to attract a wide array of demographics. As a result, of our increase in workforce and business growth, also don’t forget our populations demand for material possession that has created numerous jobs; all of these factors, demand more hours from workers, more hours cause fatigue which then makes the worker look for ways to relax. This is the backbone of most hospitality businesses which is why many emphasize the customer service component; hospitality businesses are aware of the demanding jobs many of their patrons undertake which is why they want to create unforgettable experiences. However, this cannot fix our deeper issues, which is what we need to differentiate when we travel or go on vacations.

We are the same person every place we go, see we look for happiness in these beautiful places that we find on social media. We create an illusion in our mind of how happy we are going to be or create these massive expectations that are bound to collapse at any unplanned misfortune. Ultimately, a vacation can be anywhere; anywhere our mind can feel at ease, anywhere where we can reconnect with our spirituality. We don’t have to spend much money to achieve this; instead, we need to invest in ourselves to enjoy a vacation. In other words, if you are feeling sad now and depressed anywhere, you go that same feeling will follow, we cannot deceive ourselves with changing our personalities or behaviors just because we are going on a pricey vacation. One thing we always need to remember, incremental lifestyle changes sustained over time is what impacts our overall vacation experience.

Work ethic and it’s purpose

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“To seek the highest good is to live well.”

Saint Augustine

Maintaining a steady and consistent work ethic is one of the most significant building blocks for success; it is one of the vital indicators of future results and what differentiates success and failure. Although, maintaining a work ethic routine can seem arduous even dreadful for many since nowadays distractions are in abundance. This problem stems from our short attention span; many of us have become Goldfish; we literally cannot focus for extended periods of time; however, this problem isn’t biological instead attained behavior. Consequently, this is tied to our mass-consumption of social media and any interactive form of technology; though, we have more ways to reach and establish communications with our peers. However, we have succumbed to every notification we receive on our devices. In my opinion, this is what reduces productivity for many.


My background is freelancing as a digital marketer, and being a freelancer, you must maintain a steady work ethic which is built around various factors; for instance, reputation is the primary indicator of how you are performing and delivering to your clients. Therefore, I must schedule my day based on the length of time for each contract. In other words, I must prioritize what tasks are the hardest and most time consuming by creating a list of each task; once the list has been created, you can start analyzing which tasks you should prioritize. Fairly simple right? Well no, doing this can seem quite difficult for some or even maintaining this same routine throughout our professional careers. Likewise, we always tend to prioritize things that impact our personal lives significantly which has the most impact in our self-fulfillment; however, this proves difficult when we have so many choices that our minds feel bombarded and we don’t end up doing anything. Therefore, we must carefully plan out and evaluate what we spend our time and energy into; for instance, instead of spending so much time doing activities like watching Netflix or scrolling through social media we can use that time to learn a new skill, or plan out your day, or just spend time improving yourself. Most of these seem very cliché something out of a positive social media post; yet, many of us end up doing empty value activities.

However, the most important trait/quality we must sustain is the same trait that guides through thunderstorms, hurricanes, and all of life’s obstacles. Perseverance is what leads us down uncertain paths; these paths are arduous odysseys that might lead us to cul-de-sac’s or lead us to great destinations beyond our wildest imaginations. One of my favorite stories, even a story that most of us should live by is the story of Phil Knight. Phil Knight is someone who built a massive empire of pure uncertainty, Phil traveled to Japan out of a vision, out of pure vision; unfortunately, during this time Japan was still rebuilding after catastrophic bombings like Hiroshima & Nagasaki and even their capital city Tokyo. In other words, Japan and the US still had conflictive tensions; also, they are both different from a cultural standpoint. Yet, even with all these odds against Phil managed to travel to an uncertain land of opportunity and maintained that vision throughout various hardships. Besides, all the cultural differences, startup business setbacks, and unlimited liability, Phil still managed to build a massive sports clothing empire known as NIKE. So why am I telling you this story? Well, this story symbolizes the importance of uncertainty and how it can impact our perseverance tremendously. Our determination follows a close link to our work ethic; it is the fuel of how far we are willing to pursue our goal/purpose. Even if we have fantastic work ethic skills without perseverance, that work ethic will crumble significantly at the first sing of uncertainty. Phil used his preservice of building a business to fulfill an athlete’s needs and be able to perform above-expected standards; which is why Phil set his missions above all, to overcome any obscurity from uncertain business partners to bankruptcy in his first business ventures. Ultimately, this is what leads our craziest visions/goals to become a reality; this is how we build the life we all dream of, the ability to carry a vision throughout obscurity and believe in it so much with action, efforts that it eventually becomes a reality.

Once we combine all these traits and frameworks, we can set any goal for ourselves; everyone can reach their full capacity and exceed to greater feats. Life is our greatest gift; we must not devaluate it; we must not waste these precious years on self-deprecating lies we all tell ourselves. These lies are what gets us through our daily lives; sadly, many of us don’t ever experience our highest potential because of these self-fulfilling lies. We all have different purposes in life; we can’t live someone else’s purpose; we were all brought to this world for various reasons. Therefore, we must explore our mission by setting goals, once we find something we genuinely enjoy we must pursue this feeling and never stop chasing no matter how others perceive it; consequently, many of us live our lives trying to please others or be socially acceptable, and this is the biggest anchor in our journey to pursue our goals. Ultimately, we need to make the impossible possible, and the only way to do is set goals that seem impossible because once we reach that impossible mark, we can anything possible.

Side notes

  • I recommend you read Phil Knight’s story by reading “Shoe Dog” his own written Biography.
  • Another book ideology used in the article is: “Eat That Frog” by Brian Tracy.
  • One of the best life coach I know is Corey Wayne and his book is “Mastering Yourself” definitely a must read to discover your mission and purpose.

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