Spiritual Motivation

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“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”

– Carol Burnett

Motivation is one of the greatest psychological aspects that significantly impact our spiritual and self-development. Therefore, we must work on motivating ourselves daily; for instance, an athlete needs to always strive to win different accomplishments, which is symbolized by medals. Ultimately, these medals envelope all the hard work, long hours, and sacrifices they endure; this is how they
measure their success. In other words, this is how an athlete motivates themselves by attaining a symbol for their success, so what symbol do we accomplish by motivating ourselves? What symbol do we seek?

All human beings have open areas, hidden areas, blind areas, and unknown areas. Ultimately, the wider the open area is, the greater openness and transparency they generate when they interact with others, so what do I mean by this? That we all have something we have yet to find; for example, there was once an adolescent named Jack, a boy who stopped believing in love, Jack passed through various phases of depression and heartaches. Yet, He still decided to open his heart to another relationship. Although, he was still afraid of giving his love due to his past experiences, and because of that, though, he was able to experience something extraordinary. At first, it was difficult for Jack to avoid bringing his heartaches and melancholic experiences into the new relationship, without feeling those pesky insecurities, and those doubtful thoughts about his partner.

Nevertheless, he eventually understood that sometimes people come into our lives to either destroy or make us into better visions of ourselves. There are various blind areas in a relationship, where we must communicate our will, without measuring the impacts or implications, without mediating the opposite messages that others may perceive. Ultimately, a form of relationship where what matters is my vision, interests, challenges, and objectives. Where others are part of my environment, but they are not my priority. There is no area in between.

Foremost, we must understand that our communication with God isn’t left in open areas. Instead, it is in the zone where we can always enjoy his presence, solely devout to him. From our commitment to the holy and pure, we know that we do not live the full promises of his love. Therefore, we must keep expanding our values and self-development and keep searching for other options to light our torches within our hearts to parish all the darkness that plague our hearts. We must be reborn at the stake of faith and merge into the crucible of his love. If you look closely at Jack’s story, you will see that his purpose was to find someone honest, loving, and caring in his life. Unfortunately, he went through various painful phases in his life, yet he persevered despite all the obstacles; Jack kept his vision to find someone who genuinely loved him and wanted to start a family.

Ultimately, we can all achieve what we set our minds and heart to do; we can do much more than we can ever imagine. However, we can only achieve this if you have a vision and can endure all obstacles and various forms of suffering. If this becomes our mentality, we will destroy the barrier known as “limit.”

By: Megan V. Pozzaglio

Social Media Content Creator-Tyler Cardenas

“Limitless undying love which shines around me like a million suns it calls me on and on across the universe.”

– John Lennon

Hello everyone, my name is Tyler Cardenas, and I’m fortunate to say that my soul has been fortunate to experience nearly 25 years upon this beautiful world, and the crazy thing is my perception of life would’ve been entirely different if I had been typing this story last year. Since my early stages of life, the universe seemed to be on a mission toward making sure my subconscious and mindset were regularly tested each day that faded by. As a result, this led me to find excuses to shun and laugh at any aspect of life involving spirituality, I just kept focusing on the negatives instead of realizing the positives that come out of every situation, pretty much I figured my life would just turn upside once a glimmer of light would try to poke it’s way through. For almost 25 years, I was oblivious toward the bigger picture of this reality that we currently take part in, and yet it’s crazy to think that it took meeting/ losing somebody close to wake my consciousness up. Because of this, I had an awakening and have been on the most serene, euphoric journey ever since.

In retrospect, it’s pretty ironic how life works, but sometimes people need to fall to a bottomless abyss before they’re susceptible to significant change. If it weren’t for everything leading up to today, I know for a fact I wouldn’t have received this fantastic opportunity! To be a part of a loving community, one that actually wants to heal the world, one day at a time. I’m excited to hopefully work with all of you because now I see a more significant purpose. In other words, the bigger picture, that each and every one of us needs to manifest love in various forms, and sometimes it’s up to our own selves to remember that we can help spread that message across the universe. One of the best quotes I have come across “Life doesn’t happen to you; it happens FOR YOU. We’re all here to ascend our consciousness and bring back peace and love toward everything that surrounds us and creates us. I’m truly blessed to be given this opportunity to grow with all of you.

Dysfunctional Relationships

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“Manifest plainness,

Embrace simplicity,

Reduce selfishness,

Have few desires.”

– Lao Tzu

Relationships are a significant component of how our lives function. If you think about it, most of the things we do are indirectly/directly to maintain or build relationships. As humans, we have thrived on relationships throughout history; our greatest civilizations have been constructed through various types of relationships, whether transactional, personal, or spiritual. Therefore, we must evaluate how each relationship plays in our life and differentiate each type of relationship. Nonetheless, each relationship shares one theme; they all contribute to our life in some way or another; each teaches us various subliminal lessons that we may not even consider just an afterthought. Unfortunately, many of us do not know to differentiate or even approach different types of relationships which is what causes havoc in our modern times.

Do you ever wonder why our divorce rates have gone up over the years? Or why there are so many divorce lawyer commercials? Or you even hear about scandalous custody battles? It’s become the norm in our society. Nowadays, commitment is scarce due to the amassed amount of options available to us. In my opinion, this is very troubling due to the lack of stable households where everyone communicates, and everyone loves one another; we’ve all seen this happen, it’s prevalent to see marriages go through scandalous affairs or “just do it for the kids.” Although it is good to show unification in families it can be a double-edged blade; for instance, many spouses do not display any form of love around their children which is saddening since this emulates the type of family they are bound to have because of learned behaviors. Therefore, this is what contributes to the 40 to 50 percent divorce rate in the United States, according to the American Psychological Association. Unfortunately, this pattern is what causes most divorces around the nation directly and indirectly; additionally, long work hours and higher labor demand may take a toll on relationships more than we fathom. As discussed in my previous article, everything is intertwined with our materialistic cravings with our relationships.

Every relationship has an underlying value; one thing is for certain no relationship should be treated as a means to an end. In other words, we must not treat relationships to get something in return; for many, this is a problematic way to view a relationship though, in fact, it is the healthiest perspective on relationships. Unfortunately, in our world this view is becoming scarcer with the wretched selfishness and entitlement spreading like it’s the black plague and poisoning our emotional and spiritual components. Even, I am still learning to disembowel these negative traits that overpower our will to attain selflessness; ultimately, we must discipline our mind by practicing altruism and genuinely loving one another for who we are as a person rather than superficial traits or what we may receive in exchange. By doing this, we allow ourselves to create loving families and envision our children to the same; we must eradicate all the wretchedness from this world all the grudges, and arrogance that holds our false bravado. As a result, we will create a world with less cynicism and build a civilization of functioning and loving relationships.

Vacations

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” Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. “

-Soren Kierkegaard

Are you ready for a once in a lifetime get-away! Are you feeling the dread of the work week! Do you ever feel like your life is a dull mindless routine! Well, think again! With our exclusive vacations, all your problems will go away! No more depressive thoughts! Call now to receive this once in a lifetime deal plus a gift card of your choice to spend in anything you want! This is basically what every get-away commercial is based-off emotion appealing benefits. Therefore, our mind is tricked into creating a beautiful reality where we envision ourselves enjoying in beautiful sandy beaches without a worry in the world and sipping on frosty piña coladas while watching our picture-perfect family. Don’t get me wrong this is an excellent thought to have, especially since modern-day marketing models many of its advertisements from these elements. Additionally, vacations are romanticized throughout social media, many of us posting these nicely edited photos to make our holidays seem nicer than what they are. Unfortunately, this sets our expectations higher, allowing more space for disappointment and shortcomings; this can significantly affect our vacation experience, which defies the whole purpose of a vacation.

So, what is a vacation? Why do we have them? Often, we insinuate vacations with pricey hotel bookings or that we must set aside so much money to enjoy ourselves thoroughly. Unfortunately, having this mindset doesn’t allow us to enjoy our vacation. By planning more, we experience less essentially, and I know to this might sound ridiculous, but in many cases, it’s quite factual. As humans, we always like things to go our way; we feel distraught when things don’t go as planned. Now you can imagine how a family feels when their flight is canceled or when an incident prevents them from enjoying the rest of their vacation. Although, vacations are for enjoying ourselves and releasing accumulated stress which is why we look for different ways to do that; therefore, the hospitality industry takes advantage of this problem and creates all sorts of attractions to attract a wide array of demographics. As a result, of our increase in workforce and business growth, also don’t forget our populations demand for material possession that has created numerous jobs; all of these factors, demand more hours from workers, more hours cause fatigue which then makes the worker look for ways to relax. This is the backbone of most hospitality businesses which is why many emphasize the customer service component; hospitality businesses are aware of the demanding jobs many of their patrons undertake which is why they want to create unforgettable experiences. However, this cannot fix our deeper issues, which is what we need to differentiate when we travel or go on vacations.

We are the same person every place we go, see we look for happiness in these beautiful places that we find on social media. We create an illusion in our mind of how happy we are going to be or create these massive expectations that are bound to collapse at any unplanned misfortune. Ultimately, a vacation can be anywhere; anywhere our mind can feel at ease, anywhere where we can reconnect with our spirituality. We don’t have to spend much money to achieve this; instead, we need to invest in ourselves to enjoy a vacation. In other words, if you are feeling sad now and depressed anywhere, you go that same feeling will follow, we cannot deceive ourselves with changing our personalities or behaviors just because we are going on a pricey vacation. One thing we always need to remember, incremental lifestyle changes sustained over time is what impacts our overall vacation experience.

Work ethic and it’s purpose

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“To seek the highest good is to live well.”

Saint Augustine

Maintaining a steady and consistent work ethic is one of the most significant building blocks for success; it is one of the vital indicators of future results and what differentiates success and failure. Although, maintaining a work ethic routine can seem arduous even dreadful for many since nowadays distractions are in abundance. This problem stems from our short attention span; many of us have become Goldfish; we literally cannot focus for extended periods of time; however, this problem isn’t biological instead attained behavior. Consequently, this is tied to our mass-consumption of social media and any interactive form of technology; though, we have more ways to reach and establish communications with our peers. However, we have succumbed to every notification we receive on our devices. In my opinion, this is what reduces productivity for many.


My background is freelancing as a digital marketer, and being a freelancer, you must maintain a steady work ethic which is built around various factors; for instance, reputation is the primary indicator of how you are performing and delivering to your clients. Therefore, I must schedule my day based on the length of time for each contract. In other words, I must prioritize what tasks are the hardest and most time consuming by creating a list of each task; once the list has been created, you can start analyzing which tasks you should prioritize. Fairly simple right? Well no, doing this can seem quite difficult for some or even maintaining this same routine throughout our professional careers. Likewise, we always tend to prioritize things that impact our personal lives significantly which has the most impact in our self-fulfillment; however, this proves difficult when we have so many choices that our minds feel bombarded and we don’t end up doing anything. Therefore, we must carefully plan out and evaluate what we spend our time and energy into; for instance, instead of spending so much time doing activities like watching Netflix or scrolling through social media we can use that time to learn a new skill, or plan out your day, or just spend time improving yourself. Most of these seem very cliché something out of a positive social media post; yet, many of us end up doing empty value activities.

However, the most important trait/quality we must sustain is the same trait that guides through thunderstorms, hurricanes, and all of life’s obstacles. Perseverance is what leads us down uncertain paths; these paths are arduous odysseys that might lead us to cul-de-sac’s or lead us to great destinations beyond our wildest imaginations. One of my favorite stories, even a story that most of us should live by is the story of Phil Knight. Phil Knight is someone who built a massive empire of pure uncertainty, Phil traveled to Japan out of a vision, out of pure vision; unfortunately, during this time Japan was still rebuilding after catastrophic bombings like Hiroshima & Nagasaki and even their capital city Tokyo. In other words, Japan and the US still had conflictive tensions; also, they are both different from a cultural standpoint. Yet, even with all these odds against Phil managed to travel to an uncertain land of opportunity and maintained that vision throughout various hardships. Besides, all the cultural differences, startup business setbacks, and unlimited liability, Phil still managed to build a massive sports clothing empire known as NIKE. So why am I telling you this story? Well, this story symbolizes the importance of uncertainty and how it can impact our perseverance tremendously. Our determination follows a close link to our work ethic; it is the fuel of how far we are willing to pursue our goal/purpose. Even if we have fantastic work ethic skills without perseverance, that work ethic will crumble significantly at the first sing of uncertainty. Phil used his preservice of building a business to fulfill an athlete’s needs and be able to perform above-expected standards; which is why Phil set his missions above all, to overcome any obscurity from uncertain business partners to bankruptcy in his first business ventures. Ultimately, this is what leads our craziest visions/goals to become a reality; this is how we build the life we all dream of, the ability to carry a vision throughout obscurity and believe in it so much with action, efforts that it eventually becomes a reality.

Once we combine all these traits and frameworks, we can set any goal for ourselves; everyone can reach their full capacity and exceed to greater feats. Life is our greatest gift; we must not devaluate it; we must not waste these precious years on self-deprecating lies we all tell ourselves. These lies are what gets us through our daily lives; sadly, many of us don’t ever experience our highest potential because of these self-fulfilling lies. We all have different purposes in life; we can’t live someone else’s purpose; we were all brought to this world for various reasons. Therefore, we must explore our mission by setting goals, once we find something we genuinely enjoy we must pursue this feeling and never stop chasing no matter how others perceive it; consequently, many of us live our lives trying to please others or be socially acceptable, and this is the biggest anchor in our journey to pursue our goals. Ultimately, we need to make the impossible possible, and the only way to do is set goals that seem impossible because once we reach that impossible mark, we can anything possible.

Side notes

  • I recommend you read Phil Knight’s story by reading “Shoe Dog” his own written Biography.
  • Another book ideology used in the article is: “Eat That Frog” by Brian Tracy.
  • One of the best life coach I know is Corey Wayne and his book is “Mastering Yourself” definitely a must read to discover your mission and purpose.

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Sacrifice

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“As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways in which I could respond to my situation — either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course.”

– Martin Luther King Jr.

What is sacrifice? Why do we choose to sacrifice one end to achieve another end; most of the time, we don’t acknowledge how much we are surrendering to accomplish a particular goal or reality. On the other hand, many of us do acknowledge how much sacrifice and how much we are willing to tolerate or how our mind interprets the amount of sacrifice we are dealing with; see throughout history as a society we’ve sacrificed a lot of pleasurable experiences to attain pleasurable experiences right? For instance, our infrastructure has come a long way since the Paleolithic Era, where we lived in much harsher conditions incomparable to the commodities we have in the Modern Era. Nowadays, we don’t need to sacrifice as much as our ancestors did, we have everything at our convenience also we are the largest users of technology compared to previous generations; resulting, in vast innovations and services available to us, we are living in the best times we have everything.

 Despite, the ever-growing list of tragedies, nature, and wealth inequalities we are still far better off than our ancestors; ultimately, this has led us to become susceptible to any form of discomfort or adversity. For instance, when we start facing a major obstacle in our life, or any form of rejection, our emotions take over our thought process. Consequently, this affects us in more ways we can imagine, our thoughts become clouded which leads us down a self-deprecating path; this path makes us question our life choices, the path we are headed in, and the most destructive “if we are good enough.” Unfortunately, these questions bring negative effects to our well-being and self-motivation/will; these can cause complacency in our journey to achieve our greatest dreams. 

Throughout my experiences, I have learned the values of sacrifices in various forms, spiritually, mentally, and physically. For instance, my weight loss journey is one of my most significant achievements yet; my story began in my Freshman year of High School where I was weighing roughly 270 IBS at 6”3 which is significant weight even for a taller individual. In fact, most of my weight loss stemmed from my poor diet and lifestyle choices. Even though fast food and carb-loaded meals are pleasurable due to the various components that stimulate our taste-buds though they can cause detrimental effects in our dietary nutrition; in other words, anything in life that is pleasurable has negative elements associated to them which is what causes our addiction-fueled cravings for that thing and eventually seeping us into greater pain than we ever anticipated. Ultimately, I hit rock bottom when I visited the clinic, and I had to get a physical for school which at the time I thought nothing was wrong with me; however, my experience was anything but quaint.

First, I had to weigh myself, which I was already self-conscious about, and what the scale told me was even more soul-crushing a whopping 270 IBS! Almost 300 pounds! Afterward, the doctor finished the job by telling me that my poor eating habits took effect on my cholesterol, blood pressure, and sugar levels which could potentially shorten my lifespan, this hit me harder than any words ever have. This affected me deeply that weeks after I started developing a black hole inside my head, this black hole consumed all my positive thoughts and optimism. Otherwise, known as depression, many shy away from depression since our culture has labeled as this negative feeling that only eats your life away. In a way that is true, though it shouldn’t only be seen with this perspective, like anything we need balance in our life’s health, occupation, and emotional components. Therefore, depression shouldn’t be used as a negative emotion, rather a reflective even meditative form of therapy; depression augments our problems in ways that positivity can’t even enter our thought process to ease the feeling of somber. Thus, causing our mind to only focus on that problem, see many times we don’t know why we are depressed, or why we feel the way we do. In my opinion, it is the bodies way of communicating an issue that hasn’t been addressed properly; therefore, our minds create scenarios of what would happen if we don’t change this or find a solution to this problem.

Sadly, this is where many of us misinterpret depression or why we have this emotion. Therefore, many deny this feeling even bury it with self-fulfilling prophecies and illusive tendencies; this is where we start to halt our advances to achieve our greatest feats and fall into complacency or “living a lie”. Understanding these frameworks is what allowed me to enjoy sacrificing pleasurable experiences to attain a better pleasurable experience. Although this might sound vague, this is the exact mentality we need to preserve when facing any form of sacrifice to making goals for new year’s resolutions. What pleasurable things are you willing to give up to achieve this goal, what are you willing to sacrifice? Would you enjoy sacrificing those things? Personally, I had to give up playing video games for long periods of time, not eating my favorite meals, and changing my whole routine to regain my health. At first, this may seem challenging giving up what you love to do just to achieve some obscure goal; however, once you start to grasp the difference between short-term and long-term experience you will be able to program your mind to crave long-lasting change then sacrifices will seem less arduous and more like a pathway to achieve your greatest desires. Likewise, this is what creates a successful mentality, becoming comfortable with undesirable experiences and accepting all forms of sacrifices; nature changes, our climate changes, nothing ever remains stagnant, once we become stagnant, we don’t grow, and we become too comfortable and complacent in our society. Ultimately, we all need to pass through a thunderstorm, hurricane, any form of disaster and give up a few commodities to reach the summit of our potential.

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Break-Ups

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“Hearts will never be practical until they are made unbreakable.”

– The Wizard of Oz

This topic is difficult to discuss for many, it is yet one of the many hardships that are associated with any form of relationship. Therefore, it is one of the unavoidable effects of relationships which we try to steer away from and neglect when in our perspective the relationship is going well. Unfortunately, this mentality betrays us when break ups happen, we try to mitigate the problem often compacting it and numbing our emotions to live our daily routines. Consequently, this carries unfathomable repercussions denying our emotions entirely cause them more strain then healthy forms of release which is why many of us are “stuck in time.” Or in other words, the negative effects of not being present with your emotions and really understanding the emotional component of your organism; emotions play a tremendous role in how we function daily and the outcome of our actions.

Hence, why we delude ourselves with the wrong emotions then how we awfully misinterpret how we are feeling and use the wrong approach to address those emotions. As a result, when we experience break-ups many feel as though there live has come to a complete halt and the obscurity is too overwhelming where they cannot see the path they are headed. Sadly, many use the wrong approach when dealing with separation many taking up alcoholism, absence from reality, and even suicidal thoughts to actions. From my experience, I have not dealt with separations in the healthiest emotional way which led me to the wrong mentality and a constant delusion that things are bound to go back the way they were. Also wishing for the person to return to my live, sometimes we romanticize our memories and the way the person loved us or special treatments we received during the relationship; resulting in an obscure image of our partner where we isolate the good and bad characteristics. This is where we increase the “how much I miss them” or “wish things wouldn’t have changed.” Therefore, because of our lack emotional intelligence our brain digests this version of the relationship where we have zeroed all the problems and arguments we had with the person. Ultimately, this is why we need to assimilate healthy emotional intelligence practices where we remove the emotion from the equation and see the situation for what it really is; this allows us to make sense of the effects of break-ups and once we do we can finally cry in our pillows and overcome it. Use that energy, the anguish and turn it into positive energy use it as a means to achieve your goals visualize yourself in a better reality with better company. This will has allowed me to sustain my self-motivation when faced with emotional distressing situations.